Hey everyone! Sorry for the lengthy absence. I started a new job recently and it's just been hectic trying to find time to write and post. I also halted reading a few of the books I'm supposed to be reviewing for ya'll.
One of the reasons why I've decided to halt a few of the books is because they're extremely boring as well as extremely white. I don't have issues with white people or their stories regarding polyamory but I do have issues with this being the only narrative that's out there for people. Coming into polyamory as a person of color has a very different look as well as feel. Being a person of color we're going to always face stereotypes from our community as well as white people. I thought about the fact that we still lack proper representation when it comes to black stories surrounding polyamory/nonmonogamy. I also thought about how the perception of polyamory is being a thing only men want and women are just helpless bystanders going along to keep the man.
The idea of a book highlighting stories of black polyamorous women became a tiny spark. Initially, I wanted to write a book that highlighted stories from black women and men, then I thought about a large amount of misogyny and patriarchal thinking within the community. Yes, I thought people who are considered free-thinking surely must not subscribe to the societal views that a woman or femme presenting person's body and sexuality belongs to her. I thought that male-identified individuals within this community don't assume that I as a solo-poly woman I'm a hoe or that I'm sleeping with everyone.
There's another movement within the community of polygynous males that feel that entitlement to numerous women who will all cook, clean, raise the children, and give him unlimited access to their bodies for his sexual desires while he gives what? Protection? His manhood? Financial stability? I've seen this attitude and thinking across several social media platforms and in groups that are open to polyamory. To be brutally honest I don't consider polygyny or polygamy anything close to polyamory. Others will disagree and I think that's only because of the "poly" root word. I may possibly go deeper into my feelings on this topic at a later date.
So my question is how do we as a community actively remove these thoughts and behaviors in our community?
