Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships or (LDR's) for short are both a good thing and a bad thing in my opinion.   Hey, ya'll I'm back and I wanted to discuss a topic that's close to my heart so to speak....long-distance relationships.

I'm currently in several LDR's, and with the exception of one of my poly relationships, this has been the only type of relationship I've engaged in.   I started thinking about how I feel about being in multiple LDR's today particularly because I'm missing my partners and I really wish I could have a few cuddles or have a romantic date night.   I will admit sometimes being in an LDR works for everyone because of our work schedules and family life.   All of my partners work full time,some have businesses to run or have other obligations such as kids or family members to take care of so it would be difficult to see each other if we all lived in the same city.  The more and more I thought about these types of relationships the more I recognized that they work for me.

They work for me mainly now for several reasons. One of the reasons is that the poly dating pool in Northeastern Ohio is small and the Queer poly dating pool here is even smaller.  I had to ponder this when one of my partners and I were talking and they said they didn't like that I got lonely some times.  After thinking long and hard I realized the amount of b.s that I may possibly endure looking for someone it wouldn't be worth any of the hassle. The older I get the less tolerance and patience I have for nonsense.  I know it's already difficult to date when you're straight and monogamous.

They remembered and recognized that my love language is Quality Time which I was so happy and grateful for.  My definition of quality time is really spending time with my partners and people who I really truly care about. But the amount of time and frequency isn't really important because it's with people who I truly value.  The infrequency of my visits with my partners isn't really an issue with me because I know when I see them the time spent will be cherished like no other. Every single second spent is and will be an experience that will bring me joy. Making memories during those times leave a lasting impression on my heart.

The realization that even if I had a local love we'd still be under time constraints from our jobs and family life put things in serious perspective.   Are you in a long-distance relationship? Are you hesitant to be in one?  Please comment and let me know.   Thanks for reading!!!